Not two weeks after returning from my honeymoon, my wife cheated on me. She's always been a bit of a party girl and says she was out with the girls and "things just happened." She says it means nothing ... but at this point in a marriage it has to mean something is horribly, terribly wrong, right?
We both cheated while we were dating and agreed that our love was strong enough to push through it. And we are pretty great together. But was I wrong to think that pledging eternal fidelity would at least buy me, I don't know, seven years of it? This woman is my soulmate. My soulmate who can't keep it in her pants.
Can I stay with her?
Why did you get married in the first place? Marriage should never be used as a magic pill in hopes of salvaging an already rocky relationship. That being said, it’s a little too late for second guessing at this stage in the game. Now you are harboring feelings of hurt and abandonment. You need to find ways to get over these feelings before you can move forward with your life, and there are several ways to accomplish this.
You could get a divorce, but that can get a bit messy. After all, who will get the house and who will get the Miley Cyrus CDs? If she really is your soul mate as you say, divorce is probably not the option you want to consider. Besides, that will do nothing for your hurt feelings.
You might try this: follow your wife around for a few weeks. If she was acting like a whore within two weeks of your honeymoon, chances are she will slip up again. When she does, you will be there with your camera and giant telephoto lens. Then get the pictures developed and put them in your photo album along with your wedding pictures.
When your in-laws come over for dinner, make sure the photo album is placed strategically on the coffee table. When you all adjourn to the living room for tea and crumpets after dinner, you mother-in-law won’t be able to resist a little peek at the pictures. “Look, wedding pictures! There is dear old Uncle Frank, he really is aging well. And, what’s this…? Oh, dear….”
If you really want to salvage your marriage, though, you probably need to take more drastic action. Your bride seems to think it is okay to sleep with others, and that begs the question why? Perhaps your wife isn’t satisfied with what you have to offer her. Instead of stomping your feet like a little child, you should be dancing in the street, as you have been given a great gift. Women are much more sexual beings than men; this means you need practice, and lots of it.Think of all the women whom you have wanted to boink over the years, write their names down and start making calls. It probably won’t take long for your wife to find out about your “practice” sessions; women always know these things. When she confronts you about it, tell her you are “doing it” for her.
On the other hand, you could just give your wife an ultimatum. Do you really want to deal with infidelity ‘til death do you part? Or are you going to do something about it? If you really want your wife to be faithful, then you need to tell her it is your way or the highway. Who wears (or doesn’t wear) the pants in your relationship?